[This article was originally published on the Pagan site at BellaOnline and later at HubPages. HP has deemed this article idle, so I'm republishing it here.]
*Please note that in some of my older pieces I used the term "Pagan community" a lot. I've come to really dislike the term but at the time it seemed to fit how I was writing.
Pagans and Grief
As the Neo-Pagan community ages, we have come to realize the inherent need for something that more established religions take for granted – a process to help us with the death of a loved one. The Pagan Book of Living and Dying by Starhawk, M. Macha Nightmare, and the Reclaiming Collective provides valuable guidance for the dying, their caregivers, friends and family.
Grief can overcome us whether death is sudden or is brought on by a long illness. The stress is compounded when misunderstandings arise regarding religion. These misunderstandings can happen even if Pagans are completely open about their beliefs or still in the broom closet. This book gives practical suggestions to overcome obstacles and honor the wishes of the dying.
This is a collection of essays by various authors. Some of them describe very personal experiences with death while others give clearly practical advice. While there are rituals, chants, prayers and meditations, they are all given as inspiration rather than how-to manuals to be followed to the letter.
Adaptable for Use by Different Pagans
The authors begin by introducing Pagan beliefs. These are mainly from the viewpoint of the Reclaiming Collective which is more of a Goddess-centered spirituality. However, the section titled How to Use This Book clearly states that you are free to adapt the ideas presented for use in your own situation.
How Pagans View Death
The second part of the book goes into the Pagan view of death. Again, this is according to one popular strand of Paganism but gives a good enough overview for outsiders to understand that many of us have different ideas about death than our mainstream counterparts.
Pagans Share Their Stories
Parts three and four have some of the most heart-wrenching stories as they deal with the dying process and death in special circumstances. Part three covers things such as keeping a death vigil, preparing for death for yourself and others, and arranging funerals and memorials.
Authors go on in part four to share how they coped with tragic death including suicide, AIDS, and the death of a child. These essays were all well written but were difficult to read. I wouldn’t recommend it if you are in the deep throes of grief. Ideally, this book is more a preparatory guide to turn to when you are in a more positive frame of mind. However, the fact that death doesn’t always happen in ideal circumstances is very much the point of this section.
Grief, Preparation and Pagan Rituals for the Dead and Dying
Grieving and the practical concerns that need to be addressed after death are covered in part five. Many of us don’t like to think about our own mortality and put off legal paperwork such as a health care proxy and will. This section gives a solid reminder of how important it is to not procrastinate in this regard. Samples of both these documents are given in the appendices.
Rituals are given to help the dying cross over as well as examples of funerals and memorial services. There are also meditations and visualizations to help through every step of the dying and grieving process.
Helping Pagans with Grief
The Pagan Book of Living and Dying, was one of the first books to address this topic within the community. Even if you don’t feel drawn to the Reclaiming Tradition, it would be a good resource for clergy and Pagans of different paths to help facilitate a smoother transition for the dying and their loved ones.
FTC Disclosure: I purchased this book and I have not received compensation from the publisher for this review.
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[Author note: This article was originally published in 2010 elsewhere. I know some people consider Cunningham outdated or fluffy but I've always found his work to be balanced and evergreen, so I'm republishing the review here. The review was written for people who may not have heard of many of the concepts. I hope you find it of use.]
Scent can evoke an emotional response both positive and negative. That response can be used in magic to create change.
Author Scott Cunningham provides an introduction to using aromatherapy effectively in magic and ritual to create desired changes in the magician's life in Magical Aromatherapy: The Power of Scent.
Essential Oils for Magic
Aromatherapy is a complex subject and is used as an alternative medicine treatment for physical and emotional health. Magical Aromatherapy is not a manual on how to treat health problems with essential oils but how to use them and other items such as flowers in magic.
Cunningham provides listings for many common and some less common oils. While the physical attributes are given, his focus is magical and he explains what magic the scent is best for including prosperity, love, protection or increasing psychic ability.
He gives examples of techniques to be used including visualization and inhalation for what he terms "programming of personal energy." This is called sympathetic magic and utilizes the concept that like attracts like.
The Use of Magical Tables With Aromatherapy
Magic tables are used to choose correspondences that relate to the magical operation at hand and increase the potential for sympathetic magic. For instance, a witch may want to know the best time of month to perform a love spell and be given a choice of appropriate crystals, incense, and zodiac correspondences to use for that spell. Below are the tables the author provides for this purpose:
- Days of the week
- Lunar cycles
He also provides substitutes for hard-to-find essential oils or when the scents called for in a spell aren't otherwise readily available. Some plant materials don't lend themselves to being used for essential oils and Cunningham has tables for what oils are generally artificial and those that are real.
About Author Scott Cunningham
Scott Cunningham is most well known for his books on Wicca. In fact, according to the publisher's website, his book Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner first published in 1988 has sold over 600,000 copies. Because of the book's availability and popularity, it's often one of the first introductory texts that new Wiccans learn from.
He was known for his down-to-earth writing style and ability to clearly explain Wicca to beginners which he also demonstrates in Magical Aromatherapy. He's often one of the people credited with bringing Wicca to the mainstream, something he also has been criticized for by people who believe it should remain an initiatory religion. He believed that Wicca should be more open to seekers. Sadly, an AIDS-related illness claimed his life at the young age of 36 in 1993.
Magical Aromatherapy is part of his impressive bibliography (over 20 books) which encourages people to learn and practice at their own pace as well as trust their own judgment. As stated, it's not an in-depth introduction to aromatherapy but a good resource for those who want to make aromatherapy a part of their magical practice.
© Trish Deneen
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